I discussed a bit about 4 different "approach positions" and how a good pick-up either rapidly jumps from one to another or is somewhere between two positions, combining their attitude or "energy". (I don`t care if you don`t believe in energy? chicks do!)

Since this is one of my favorite topics, let me continue on in this issue and give you some more keys for meeting women.

And this is important as a skill, if for no other reason than to avoid? "Relationship by Default" Syndrome. In case you don`t know, that`s when a woman comes along who accidentally happens to be attracted to you, ends your sexual starvation, but you have to settle because maybe you don`t even really like or want her.

Sad, but for many men so true, because they lack the crucial skill of constantly bringing in new prospects. Anyway, there are some fun-da-mental rules for making pick-ups really effective and part of your daily reality.

Rule #1: Get yourself in the right frame of mind before you walk out the door!

Ok....I`ve harped on this before in my seminars and products. I`ll harp on it AGAIN. And I`ll harp on it till I`m dead and gone and PLAYING a harp: YOUR FRAME OF MIND IS CRUCIAL WHEN IT COMES TO MEETING AND ATTRACTING WOMEN!!!

Understanding that allows you to also see the single biggest and most common mistake guys make when it comes to meeting women, and it is this: They Are Relying On The Women Accepting Them To Make Them Feel Good Instead Of Walking Up To Women With A Good Feeling First!

Listen: YOU must first learn how to produce good feelings in your body and mind, and learn to enjoy the actual process of meeting women (it CAN be done!) BEFORE you can get good results.

Otherwise, you are relying on the WOMAN to make YOU feel good. And in that, case, no matter how clever the lines you say, who really has the power?

She does. NOT a good thing.

So you MUST learn to produce good feelings and states for yourself... BEFORE YOU EVEN WALK OUT THE FRIGGIN DOOR!

Now, listen. I`ve come up with plenty of tools for you to do this and this is so important I`m going to make it a topic of at least 2 issues of this newsletter. For now, just keep the principle in mind: You Must Go First By FEELING Good FIRST Before You Even Walk Out Your Door!

Like I said, there are ways to program your mind to do this, and in future issues, I will go into great detail and show you exactly how to do it.

For now though, one good way to do this is to make sure you have a life going on with things you enjoy, besides women.

Invest yourself in hobbies, find things you love, make sure you get adequate rest, and take care of your diet and physical health

Rule #2: Take into account and USE what the physical dictates and layout of the situation in which you find yourself.

Ok. This is actually a simple concept.

Let`s say you`re a lucky s.o.b., and, like me, you live right by a jog or bike path. Women are constantly skating, blading, running or biking right by you. And let`s say further, that you, like me, are a lazy son of a bitch and have no intention of moving your own fat ass via bike, blades, running etc.

Now, given that physical aspect of the situation and your own bone-deep sloth and aversion to movement, what do you have to do in order to meet and talk to these women?

Well, Buckwheat, what ya first and foremost gotta do is... Ya Gotta Get `Em To Stop!

That`s right. That beautimous and buxom babe in the halter top... that luscious blonde with the jog shorts so tight, her "camel-toe" is poking through the sheer fabric... they will never be riding your trouser pole UNLESS YOU CAN GET THEM TO STOP!

With that in mind, I have actually USED the following approach and ACTUALLY gotten it to work! I admit, as you read it, it seems crazy, and it isn`t for beginners. It`s one of those "don`t try this at home" unless you are a pro kind of things.

But it`s an illustration of an extreme example that does and can work and if I`m out there doing something THIS wacky, surely YOU can come up with something relatively sane by comparison.

Anyway?

I merely wait for a nice looking young lady to come jogging, blading or biking toward my stationary position along the path. I then jump out, hold out a hand and in my most authoritative tone yell: STOP! (This is actually pretty funny to watch. I have never had them NOT stop!)

I then say something like, "If you`re that easily stopped... you need a boyfriend who will MOTIVATE you! My name is Ross".

Now, at this point, I bring into play...

Rule #3: Verbally Pace the Ongoing Situation

I cannot emphasize enough the power of this VERY important rule. Basically, what it means is to verbally describe and therefore ACKNOWLEDGE the situation and reality that she finds herself in with you. In the example above, where I`ve just jumped in her path and yelled "STOP", what do you think this girl is thinking?

It`s a safe bet it is something along the lines of "this guy is fuckin` nuts"!

So I better USE that instead of ignoring it.

I say something along these lines, "Look....I know this is a totally nutty way to meet someone (pacing her ongoing belief)... but I knew if I didn`t do SOMETHING to stop you, we`d never get a chance to talk (also completely true...a truism with which she cannot argue) and maybe see how much WE COULD REALLY LIKE EACH OTHER (embedded suggestion).

The principle here is VERY important. And that is... BY DEMONSTRATING UNDERSTANDING, YOU INCREASE RAPPORT!

Now, let me make something critically clear: I did NOT say demonstrate that YOU are "understanding, sensitive" etc.

I said demonstrate "understanding" of her ongoing reality and situation. Not in the sense of apologizing or excusing but simply that you are alert and AWARE of who she is and what she is experiencing. You then proceed to lead her where you WANT her to be!

Now, back to the idea of using the physical layout of where you are going to be meeting women:

Let`s say you are going to meet women in a coffee house or restaurant, two of my favorite places.

It`s important to be aware of the physical lay-out of the place.

As an example, when I go to the Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf, which has many branches here in L.A., I survey the place and try to find what I call "the catbird seat".

In case you don`t know, the "cat bird" is the bird in the flock that is always given the high ground and best perch. Why?

Because it is his job to stay on the look out for the cat and warn all the other birds that it is time to take off!

So when I walk into a Coffee Bean (or any other place like it) I always look for the seat in the place that will give me the best view of anyone who walks in the door. This means I can see anyone who is standing in line, and make eye contact with them for a sustained period of time.

If you are sitting in a restaurant, a good idea is to sit at the bar at a spot near the take out order spot, if you can and if they have one.

As an example, the California Pizza Kitchen restaurant chain almost always will have a take out spot or window inside the restaurant, right near the bar where you can sit and eat.

This way, you can easily talk to and meet every woman waiting in the take out line, which can be huge at the right time of day.

Is this simple and is this making sense. I know it might seem too easy, but little things like this can make a huge difference.

One other example before we move on-at a party, the best spot to hang out is right by the bathroom. Women have notoriously small bladders when they are drinking a lot, and almost every girl there is going to have to get into your space sooner or later if you park your horny ass near the bathroom!

Now let me round this issue off by talking about? MY FAVORITE PLACES TO MEET WOMEN!

As I`ve said before and will say again, I usually avoid going to "singles" type places to meet women. That includes clubs, singles bars, etc.

I`m aware that some guys love, even excel at these places, and more power to them, but for the most part, I avoid them.

Why? Well, first of all, I`m now 45 years old. And I just look totally out of place.

Just as important: they are noisy and I don`t want to shout to be heard. My voice is my livelihood and my instrument, damn it. Also they are loaded with DRUNKEN people, and no offense to you if you are bit buzzed reading this, but I HATE BEING AROUND DRUNK PEOPLE!

Finally, it is exactly in these kinds of places that women are extra suspicious and EXTRA on guard. And in a club or bar, many otherwise friendly and nice women believe. THEY HAVE A LICENSE TO ACT LIKE C**TS!

Don`t get me wrong. What I teach CAN and DOES work in these places. I just don`t go there and don`t recommend that you do either.

Ok. So here are some of my favorite places where I go and where I recommend YOU go to meet women:

? Restaurants with attached bars.

These places are often great Tues-Thursday nights, around 6-8:30 PM. Especially upscale places, they cater to a professional crowd. Some VERY nice looking women looking to unwind after work. Also often these places serve as a meeting ground for women having bachelorette parties.

? Coffee houses like Starbucks, Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf, etc.

Great from 8-10:30 AM every day of the week. After 9am you are more likely to get women who work in retail, outside sales like pharmaceutical reps, self-employed, students etc.

? Supermarkets- M-F noon to around 1:30 PM.

Women on their lunch hours pop into buy things. M-Thurs 6-830 PM. Sat 10AM-noon, same for Sundays.

? Shopping Malls

This is a no-brainer. If they have a good food court and are near offices, then noon till 1:30 PM, M-F. Hit the food courts and forget most of the rest of the stores. Other good times: Tues-Thurs 630-8PM and Sat afternoons.

? *Self-Improvement seminars

If you live anywhere NEAR a major U.S. city, chances are Tony Robbins will be hosting an event. Now, I don`t think Tony is the best seminar investment...MY seminars would fall into that category.

However, his seminars are LOADED to the gunwales with good-looking, SUGGESTIBLE women. And hell, you don`t even have to actually sign up. Just find out where they are being held, hang out in the lobby of the hotel and swoop in on the women during the coffee, tea and dinner breaks.

? Yoga Classes

Unbelievable amounts of hard-bodied, open-minded, amazing looking and obscenely flexible women. Take a beginners class if you`ve never done it before and you`ll met lots of women, who are also VERY suggestible and open to "new ways" of thinking. Especially look for a studio that is located near a coffee or tea place, because many women will head over to such a place after a class to refresh themselves.

OK, that`s it for now... look for the next issue where I will continue on this theme of how to meet women, anytime, anywhere, USING YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR!

Until then,

Piece and peace,

Ross

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