Wholesale BagsBefore the harmful effects that plastic bags could have on the environment was brought to light, people were perfectly happy to use them when they went for their weekly shop. In the past we were just as guilty as the rest and we always seemed to have a mountain of plastic bags stacked up in one of the drawers in our kitchen. These days we try to be more eco-friendly and re-use
Wholesale Bags where we can. Looking around the supermarket on our last visit we noticed that plenty of other people have the same idea. More people are into recycling these days and they are really in the know when it comes to environmental issues. By using reusable
Wholesale Bags less plastic varieties will need to be used. There are some official figures available that prove to be quite shocking with regards to discarded plastic. It kills sea birds and sea mammals in large quantities not to mention the number of fish that it slaughters. Other marine life such as dolphins and whales can choke on it and it doesn`t fair much better on the land. Bags made from plastic can take thousands of years to decompose on landfill sites. Therefore every effort should be made to use the reusable
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Football season is here again, so I get to use a sports analogy. The guys will love it, the gals may have to seek male interpretation!
Maggie and Larry feel they are in love with each other. They`ve been dating for about six months. Maggie is shy and has been hurt in prior relationships, making it difficult for her to open up and express her feelings. Larry is insecure and needs her to be able to verbalize her emotions. He says that if she can`t open her heart to him he cannot continue with the relationship. She says that if she doesn`t have the time and comfort and security of knowing that he is committed to her, she can`t open up to him.
So we have the classic Catch 22. She can`t open up without a commitment, and he can`t make a commitment unless she opens up. Can they find middle ground? It turns out that this is where most relationships grow, "in the crease." It is that narrow seam between his barriers and hers where, just maybe, they can move forward a little.
The football analogy is a good one. Suppose you are a running back and you want to score a touchdown. But between you and the goal line are your own teammates and also players from the opposing team. You can`t run through your own players, and you can`t run through your opponents either. So you try to find a "hole" between all the players to run through, and if the hole stretches out for five or ten yards you have found "the crease," i.e. that narrow seam where there are no players from either team to bump into.
More than likely you will be tackled before making a touchdown, but you will have progressed forward and you can get up and try again.
Your own players that block your path are like your own internal barriers, fears, limiting beliefs, preconceived notions, etc. The opposing players are like your partner`s internal barriers, fears, limiting beliefs, preconceived notions, etc. The "crease" is that narrow seam between all these barriers where you can make some degree of progress. Some degree of progress probably does not mean a touchdown, and does not mean you won`t feel hurt, but it does mean you can continue to build your relationship in a series of such "creases."
Maybe Larry can give Maggie six months. This is not forever, but it`s more than nothing. Maybe Maggie can express herself in e-mails. This is not the same as in person, but it`s a start. There are no doubt many other possible "interim solutions."
A lot depends on the degree of romantic chemistry. If it`s strong, they will (hopefully) keep trying. If not, they`ll probably give up. Emotional maturity is important here also. The more emotionally mature a person is, the wider their degree of understanding, acceptance, and flexibility, making it easier to find common ground. If there is high chemistry and no common ground it is a sure sign of immaturity.
Finding the crease is not easy. Both you and your partner will have to push yourselves and stretch your limits. A football player has to put all his energy into finding the crease, running through it as far as he can, accepting the pain from the short gain, and getting up to try again. Relationships are very similar.
I am happy to say that Maggie and Larry have found the crease that allows their relationship to move forward. No doubt there will be other situations that present themselves in the future, but again the secret to making progress is to "find the crease."
Copyright 2005, Randy Hurlburt
